As a photographer, I’ve learned that the experience you have in front of the camera matters just as much as the final gallery you receive. I want you to feel comfortable, valued, and at ease every step of the way. And that means being intentional—not just with how I pose you or guide you, but with the words I use.
There are certain questions I’ve heard asked during sessions—sometimes with the best of intentions—that can actually cause pressure, discomfort, or confusion. These are questions I’ll never ask as your photographer, and here’s why… along with what I do instead to create a more positive, thoughtful experience for everyone involved.
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1. “Do you remember me?”
This is a question many adults ask children out of friendliness, but it can unintentionally put pressure on little ones. Truthfully, kids may not remember me, especially if they were very young the last time we met—and that’s perfectly okay.
What I do instead:
I greet children warmly by name and simply ask, “How are you?” That small shift removes any expectations and creates a safe, affirming space. Over time, they’ll remember me naturally—through the kindness and calm I bring each time we meet.
2. “Can you just smile for me real quick?”
I know this question is often said in an effort to capture a happy photo quickly, but it can feel performative. Most people—especially kids—don’t respond well to that kind of pressure, and forced smiles don’t reflect who you really are.
What I do instead:
I focus on connection and movement. Whether it’s a silly game, a whispered secret, or just a shared laugh, I create moments that bring out your real expressions. I’m here for the genuine smiles, the quiet ones, the joyful bursts—whatever is true to you.
3. “Is that what you’re wearing?”
This one can sting. Even if said jokingly, it can make people feel uncertain or self-conscious, especially right before stepping in front of the camera.
What I do instead:
I offer styling tips and resources ahead of time to help you feel confident in your choices. And once we’re at the session, my focus is on you—your connection, your energy, your story—not your outfit. If you feel good, that confidence will shine through in every image.
4. “Are you sure you want that person in the photo?”
Family dynamics are deeply personal, and I respect that fully. It’s not my place to decide who belongs or to question your relationships.
What I do instead:
If I sense a potentially delicate situation—like if a parent isn’t sure they want their child’s significant other included—I handle it with care. I’ll gently ask if we can start with a photo of just the core family group, and then we’ll add others in afterward. It’s a respectful, pressure-free approach that gives everyone space to be included and gives you options when choosing your final images.
Food for thought
Photography isn’t just about the pretty pictures—it’s about how you feel when those pictures are being taken. My job is to make sure you feel safe, seen, and respected from the first hello to the final delivery of your gallery.
These small choices in how I speak, guide, and create are part of what makes sessions with me intentional, thoughtful, and—most importantly—about you.
